Not too long ago, I saw someone ask a question on a business forum. The question went something like this:
My wife is not very supportive of my business I am running. She doesn’t take an interest in it and doesn’t like it when I talk about it. What should I do?
There were a few comments saying that they needed to talk it out, show the importance of the business, make compromises, etc. But, what shocked and disappointed me, was the rampant amount of people saying:
Get out of that relationship, man!
If she doesn’t respect your work, leave her!
Life is too short to be in that relationship, run as fast as you can away from her!
This was very disheartening.
We are raising a culture that is obsessed with instant gratification. If they can’t have it now and easy, they are out. This isn’t just rampant in the “young, new generation”. This is invading the entire culture. I know several adults and seniors who are obsessed with instant gratification. This is very clear in relationships.
Only about 30% of the divorces that occur in the US are enacted because of adultery. That means that over 500,000 divorces in the US alone are because of issues not related to adultery. To read more about adultery being the only accepted reason for divorce, please see click here. In fact, according to research done by over 190 CDFA professionals, 43% of divorces were because of “basic incompatibility”.
Basic incompatibility covers a wide range of reasons, none of which could not be worked out with some work, time and care. But, unfortunately, our culture praises a quick “get away” and “live your life for you” mentality. This is truly sad.